Tuesday, November 6, 2007

How Do Your Fat Friends Treat You Now?

Since you have had WLS, how do your fat friends treat you? I have one significantly overweight friend (who is at least my pre-op weight, maybe more). We were great friends before I had WLS. Now, we are not so great of friends. She didn't want me to have the surgery, in fear of complications. I never bring up anything related to WLS around her. It just feels so awkward, like we are both trying to avoid the pink elephant in the room.

I have one co-worker who treats me pretty badly. I've talked about her on here before. She thought she knew everything, and tried to get me to have the lapband (because she had it). I had already done my research, and I knew that the lapband was not going to cut it for me. I know she is probably sticking needles in a vodoo doll praying that I regain every bit of my weight and then some.

I am still considering how awesome it would be to work at a place where no one ever knew that I was fat. It would just be nice to have a place once I am at goal where my "fat ghost" won't haunt me. A place where I could just blend in...

1 comment:

Tia L. said...

That is such an interesting question. When I think back on it, I didn't really have a lot of fat friends. I was typically the token fat girl. In college though, I did have a couple of overweight friends who had really wicked senses of humor and sharp tongues and they were really like a protective buffer, y'know, no one dared make fun of us because the leader, this girl named Nicole, would verbally shred them. I haven't seen those friends in years and I can't imagine that we could be friends if I were skinny at the time. I don't think it would have ever worked.

What I do find I have problems with are people who aren't fat, per se, but who were previously a healthy weight, but who have recently become 20, 30 or 40 lbs overweight. They are the ones who are seemingly putting some distance between us. I don't know if it is jealousy or maybe they think that I will lose so much weight that I will no longer be the fat one anymore and it might be them. I don't know. I do admit to being a little oblivious about it sometimes, but every now and then their actions catch my attention and I can't help but wonder what's really going on.